I pity men a lot. Any man that thinks because your position as a man gives you power is an outright fool. Have you ever tried to think of your life as a man? The moment you are born and society deceptively hails you, especially in our Aftican tradition, that a man as arrived into the world. The noise about you being born as a man is simply a symbolic way of welcoming you into slavery.
The picture above is that of Elmer Daniels who spent nearly 40 years of his life in a Delaware prison on a rape conviction. Daniels, a Black man, was convicted by an all-white jury in 1980, when he was 18 years old. That conviction was dismissed in 2018 after his new lawyer argued that evidence of Daniels’ innocence never saw the light of day, including fingerprints that did not match Daniels’ and false testimony from a teenage witness.
Daniels is free now, and advocating for legislation that would provide $50,000 for every year someone wrongfully convicted spends in prison.
Gone are the good old days when young girls were trained to be the humble and submissive wife. While men were groomed to be heads, providers and protectors of families. In these modern times, the narrative has changed. Women have mobilised themselves and are now rulers of the world. Remember Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s timeless hit, ‘Lady’? Yes, Fela was absolutely on point when he sang the line, “Lady na master”.
As a man, your contract in life is to work, work and work until you return to the grave. The greatest deception now is the lie that men are the head of the family. The statement that men are the head is a total ruse. The fear of women is now the beginning of wisdom. During the era of slavery, the easiest way to get a slave to comformity is to flog the living daylights out of him. It is clear that nothing has changed because our masters, women, now possess a more painful and deadlier instrument of torture when compared to the whip. That instrument is FALSE ALLEGATIONS.
Once accused, it’s extremely difficult for those around you to believe that you are innocent and no matter what you do or what you say, you might never convince them that you are not an abuser. It is better not to even say anything when wrongfully accused because what you say may be used as evidence against you in a court of law. Sounds familiar? That is exactly what slaves experience when tortured to conformity!
Check out some of the consequences of false allegations against men
1. There is the likelihood of the man getting a beating by an angry mob
2. The man could lose his job.
3. The chance of getting jailed is high.
4. The man’s reputation could be irreparably damaged with names such as rapist, pedophile or a wife beater.
What happens to the false accuser?
Even after it’s become evident that false allegations were made up, the police and lawyers are unlikely to file charges against the party that made the false accusation.
This is likely the case because of fear that if women are prosecuted for making false allegations, it might discourage other women from filing genuine cases.
The use of false allegations by women has gained so much notoriety in our modern day that it is used by sinister and twisted minded women as a dangerous, double edged sword against their men folk. Imagine false allegations of sexual assault levelled against innocent men in order to blackmail them or as a means of revenge.
There was an allegation of rape by a woman against her landlord which later turned out to be false . After investigations, it turned out that the woman threw in the rape allegation after the landlord stopped giving her monetary favours.
A report from Kenya captured how a man’s ego was completelyl shattered after experiencing what a woman can unleash when wielding her weaponry. A man who had been mistreated by the woman he loved, had “been working in the perilous and dangerous South Sudan, sleeping in tents — just to ensure that he secures a life for his woman.
After two years of saving, he returned to Kenya only to find the woman had diverted the funds from their joint account to her personal one. Worse, she had also shifted her intimacy from him to another man working for an international organisation.
The difference being that, the new man was white and looked like he was worth more. Besides, by making more money right here in Nairobi and drinking coffee in fancy coffee shops in Westlands, the new man offered a real possibility for the woman acquiring new citizenship in a European country. The story turned sour after the woman falsely accused the man of rape in order to stop him from coming close to her. That was beginning of jail time for this unweary soul.
I stumbled on these points in Nairaland about the absolute power women wield in a relationships that enable them to deal ruthlessly with their men if they so wish.
1. (As a woman), when I divorce I can use false accusations of domestic violence, sexual molestation of the children or abuse of the children to gain advantage during court proceedings. If I am found out to be a liar I can expect to get away with it(western world).
2. If a man calls me a slut it will probably hurt my reputation but the damage will be small and localized. However, if I call him a child molester or claim that he raped me I can destroy him completely and the damage may be nationwide.
3. If I fail at my career I can blame the male dominated society.
4. I may have the luxury of staying home and being a housewife but if my sister’s husband does the same thing I’m likely to call him a deadbeat loser and tell her to leave him.
5. If I “choose” to join the military; the best military occupations providing the most lucrative civilian training will be reserved for me. I will be kept away from the fighting as much as possible to the point that I will be thirty times less likely to be killed in a war zone than my male counterparts. I will be given equal pay for less risk.
6. My gender watches more television in every hour of every day than any other group. This along with the fact that women control 80% of domestic spending means that most television shows and advertisement are designed to appeal to me.
7. I can wear masculine clothing if it pleases me however men cannot wear feminine clothing without social penalty.
8. Not only is there a wealth of clothing choices designed for me but it is likely that I will be able to afford or have them provided for me.
9. I can be bigoted or sexist against males without social penalty.
10. If I make a false claim of rape against a male in an act of revenge or in order to cover up my own scandalous behavior I may well succeed at both and he may spend years in prison. If I am found out it is unlikely I will be charged, convicted, or serve any time at all.
11. If I abuse my husband and physically assault him and the police arrive it is almost guaranteed he will go to jail.
A lady that works with the judiciary, while chatting about some rape cases in her court today with a friend mentioned of a woman who wanted to get back at her ex-husband, so she issued an alliegation that she was raped by the man when he visited her house. Mind you, she invited him, seduced him and called the cops on him. The man was arrested without any evidence of violence, just sex. The worker at the Judiciary said that after the man was arrested, the woman dissapeared.
Yet, the man has been detained since 2019, apparantly the judge of the court is a woman and wouldn’t grant bail. According to the judge, the woman could still come back and she doesn’t want the man to run.
For men who are passing through this traumatic phase of life., my advice to you is first of all to shut up! Stop going about telling every Tom, Dick and Harry. Immediately, get yourself a lawyer. If you don’t have money for a lawyer, you probably may get screwed. Your only saving grace is to pray to God that she doesn’t sue you.
For men who have passed through the traumatic and life altering experience of false allegations from women, no one needs to tell you to be wiser when you find yourself with another female companion. Please be wise and say #NoToFalseAllegations.